Eight Signs You are Dating a Psychopath (or working with one?)

8 Signs You are Dating a Psychopath

(Note: Although she does not mention it, I suspect that some of these signs apply to the workplace as well.)

Author, Sherrie Campbell, PhD, tells us how to recognize and get rid of the psychopaths in our lives.[/caption]Guest Post by: Sherrie Campbell, Ph.D.

Are you in a love-relationship with a psychopath? Psychopaths are nearly impossible to detect. They appear to be normal, happy, charming, wonderful people who have it together. They do not appear disturbed, callous or devious. They tend to be extremely successful, convincing and in control of their lives. So, unless you are clear on what to look for, you could end up in the worst and most confusingly devastating experience of your life. These experiences can be so devastating that you lose trust in yourself, you lose hope in people and become confused about who and what to believe.

Author, Sherrie Campbell, PhD, tells us how to recognize and get rid of the psychopaths in our lives.

Author, Sherrie Campbell, PhD, tells us how to recognize and get rid of the psychopaths in our lives.

Signs to look for:

1. Queen Bee: Psychopath’s are smooth and move quickly in the beginning of a relationship. They take charge of the pace and comment endlessly on your beauty, intelligence and uniqueness in ways not previously verbalized to you where you felt you were genuinely seen for who you really are. Any insecurity you have he will build you up to think that he sees just the opposite in you. To be idolized feels amazing. It is designed to trigger that all-essential-feeling of wanting to be the most important person in another’s life. This is how he hooks you. Once this phase ends he will abruptly shut the attention off. Left confused and shocked you work tirelessly to get back to being his Queen Bee.

2. Soul Mates: Psychopath’s are chameleons and shape-change to make you believe that the two of you are soul mates, that no two people could possibly find a connection like you share. He will mirror all your pain with a similar story and mirror all your interests as if they are also his. All this is, is a game of copy-cat. He has no real identity of his own and so he becomes you and mirrors you back to yourself.

3. Chemistry: Best sex you have ever had? He will initially go out of his way to please you and give you the best sexual experience of your life only to get you hooked. Once you are hooked sex is also abruptly shut off and you’ll find yourself feeling insecure, rejected and doing what you can to get him to give it you again. Thus, you chase and he runs with all the control.

4. Devaluing: Now that the idealizing phase is over, the psychopath sees you as prey and begins the process of chipping away at your self-esteem by devaluing you. This usually starts with the silent treatment. He silences you over something small making you feel as if you are the worst most flawed person in existence. Then he will begin to disappear and stop showing up in your life with any consistency leaving you guessing and insecure.

6. Discard: Once you have been devalued the next step is to discard you. He has sucked you in with idealizing you, begins devaluing you making you feel desperate, confused and needy and then he ends it all by discarding you. You no longer inspire him because he was able to capture and control you. Meanwhile he has pulled you completely off your rhythm and you’re left trying assemble the shards of yourself which have been strewn about, while he moves happily on to a new target.

7. “Hovering”: Psychopaths never go away because once they discard you, they still see you as “supply” for their attention needs. He doesn’t want you but he also doesn’t want you to move on. If he senses you are done with him he will begin showing up either passively or directly to try and “win” you back. This is called hovering. Like a vacuum he wants to suck you back in. He will promise you the world, go back idealizing you only to get you in his clutches to discard you again and start the process all over.

The only way to get rid of a psychopath is to cut communication and contact completely. As long as you stay in any kind of contact you fuel his games and his power over you. He will make your life very difficult. Do not get tricked by the hovering because all he’s looking for is to get you back into your position of being his “supply.”

Little Life Message: Being ignored is a psychopaths kryptonite.

Sherrie Campbell, PhD is a veteran, licensed Psychologist with two decades of clinical training and experience providing counseling and psychotherapy services to residents of Yorba Linda, Irvine, Anaheim, Fullerton and Brea, California. In her private practice, she currently specializes in psychotherapy with adults and teenagers, including marriage and family therapy, grief counselling, childhood trauma, sexual issues, personality disorders, illness and more. She has helped individuals manage their highest high and survive their lowest low—from winning the lottery to the death of a child. Her interactive sessions are as unique and impactful as her new book, Loving Yourself : The Mastery of Being Your Own Person.

She earned her Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology in 2003 and has regularly contributes to numerous publications, including Intent.com, Beliefnet.com, DrLaura.com and Hitched.com. She is also an inspirational speaker, avid writer and proud mother. She can be reached at Sherriecampbellphd.com.

Loving Yourself: The Mastery of Being Your Own Person is available on Amazon.com and other fine booksellers.

Sherrie Campbell, PhD, tells us how to recognize and get rid of the psychopaths in our lives.

Sherrie Campbell, PhD, tells us how to recognize and get rid of the psychopaths in our lives.

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Berlinale World Cinema Fund Announces Recipients

(Berlin, Germany, July 9, 2014)
This just in from the Press Office:

At the 20th jury session of the World Cinema Fund (WCF), the jury recommended four new film projects for production funding and one work for distribution funding.

Since its establishment in October 2004, the WCF has awarded production and distribution funding to a total of 119 projects chosen from 2,261 submissions from Africa, Latin America, the Middle East, Central and Southeast Asia, and the Caucasus. All WCF-funded films produced to date have screened in cinemas and/or the programmes of renowned international film festivals, and are evidence of the initiative’s worldwide success.

This past May two WCF-funded films were premiered at the international film festival in Cannes. Argentinian director Lisandro Alonso’s Jauja was shown in the “Un Certain Regard” section and won the FIPRESCI Prize. Diego Lerman’s Refugiado, also from Argentina, screened in the “Directors’ Fortnight” programme.

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The WCF jury made their selection based on 126 submissions from a total of 43 countries. They have awarded funding amounting to 145,000 euros. The jury members are film scholar and curator Viola Shafik (Germany/Egypt), documentary producer Marta Andreu (Spain), distributor and producer Jan De Clercq (Belgium) and WCF project managers Sonja Heinen and Vincenzo Bugno.

Production funding:

Thailand-based director, Apichatpong Weerasethakul, "Cemetery of Kings"

Thailand-based director, Apichatpong Weerasethakul, “Cemetery of Kings”

Cemetery of Kings, director: Apichatpong Weerasethakul (Thailand). Producer: Kick the Machine Films, Thailand. Feature film. German partner: The Match Factory. Funding: 30,000 euros.

Kalo Pothi, director: Min Bahadur Bham (Nepal). Producer: Mila Productions, Nepal. Feature film. Funding: 30,000 euros.

Black Sunshine, director: Akosua Adoma Owusu (Ghana). Producer: Piano, Mexico. Feature film. Funding: 40,000 euros.

"Black Sunshine" is directed by Akosua Adoma Owusu (Ghana)

“Black Sunshine” is directed by Akosua Adoma Owusu (Ghana)

Monos, director: Alejandro Landes/Alexis Dos Santos (Colombia /Argentina). Producer: No Franja S.A.S., Colombia. Feature film. German partner: Pandora Film. Funding: 40,000 euros.

Distribution funding:

The Amazing Catfish, director: Claudia Sainte-Luce (Mexico). German distributor: arsenal distribution. Release in Germany: July 10, 2014. Funding: 5,000 euros.

In director Claudia Sainte-Luce’s debut feature,  "The Amazing Catfish", the worlds of a rambunctious matriarchy and a withdrawn misfit collide and combine in a moving reflection of living and dying with courage.

In director Claudia Sainte-Luce’s debut feature, “The Amazing Catfish”, the worlds of a rambunctious matriarchy and a withdrawn misfit collide and combine in a moving reflection of living and dying with courage.

The World Cinema Fund is an initiative of the German Federal Cultural Foundation and the Berlin International Film Festival in cooperation with the Federal Foreign Office and the Goethe-Institut.

Blackmagic Upgrades Camera Software

Blackmagic has announced a free upgrade for their cameras. It is available on their web site and you can watch Grant Petty, CEO, explaining it in detail. http://tinyurl.com/BlackmagicCameraUpgrade

CEO Grant Petty announces updates for Blackmagic cameras.

CEO Grant Petty announces updates for Blackmagic cameras.


Some of the features include:

Cinema Camera:
- new UI (similar to Ursa)

The BMCC UI gets an overhaul (now similar to the Ursa's)

The BMCC UI gets an overhaul (now similar to the Ursa’s)


- focus peaking is now in green (easier to see on screen)
The BMCC focus peaking is green, activated by pushing twice on the focus bottom - much easier to see

The BMCC focus peaking is green, activated by pushing twice on the focus bottom – much easier to see

- Nice addition is the accurate mathematical auto-focusing that now locks

The BMCC now has mathematically accurate locking auto focus

The BMCC now has mathematically accurate locking auto focus


- extended dynamic range when shooting at 1600 ISO on BMCC 2.5
- when changing between record and playback mode, the Iris setting stays the same

Pocket Camera:
-compatible with more lenses: Sigma, Lumix, MFT
-added stabilization for lenses
-new UI

The Blackmagic Pocket Camera gets a new UI

The Blackmagic Pocket Camera gets a new UI

4K Camera:
- added compressed raw DNG Support
- accurate auto-focus as in BMCC
- focus peaking as in BMCC
- new UI

Visit Blackmagic’s support site here to see Grant’s video and download the software for free.

Kionte Storey, Athlete, Hero, Inspirational Veteran

(photos and video by Cirina Catania)

We are producing a documentary film about, Kionte Storey, a retired Marine who trains every day in the hopes of landing a place on the Paralympic track team. I’ve been covering him for the last few months and am constantly amazed at his endurance, focus and positive outlook on life. Please help us to raise awareness for this very special young man so that he can continue to inspire others! Share this link on Facebook, Twitter and other places you feel appropriate.
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Here’s a very brief clip of the starting line shot at UCLA’s Drake Track Field on Saturday, June 6, 2014. Kionte was competing in the 200 meter event.

Kionte Storey, a retired Marine who was wounded in Afghanistan, trains every day in the hopes of winning a place on the Paralympic team.

Kionte Storey, a retired Marine who was wounded in Afghanistan, trains every day in the hopes of winning a place on the Paralympic team.


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Kionte Storey GoPro timelapse on grass

Kionte Storey competing in the 200 meter event at UCLA Drake field June 6, 2014

Kionte Storey competing in the 200 meter event at UCLA Drake field June 6, 2014

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NAB 2014 – Clay Asbury Talks About Filming with an iPhone

Our gadget guy, Clay Asbury, takes time out from his busy schedule at NAB 2014 to talk with Cirina Catania about how he captures news and videos using his iPhone. There are many solutions out there, including electronic stabilizers, special microphones and rigs.

Clay Asbury is a tech writer, reporter and trainer.  We caught up with him at NAB 2014 and he gave us a tour of the FCP Works suite at the Wynn.

Clay Asbury is a tech writer, reporter and trainer. We caught up with him at NAB 2014 and he gave us the inside scoop on filming with an iPhone.

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FCP Works at NAB 2014 – Clay Asbury takes us on a tour

Not everything interesting at NAB took place on the exhibit floor. There was a lot of activity at the Wynn Hotel in the FCP Works Suite. Cirina Catania caught up with Clay Asbury, tech writer and reporter, who takes us on a tour with an overview of Lumberjack System being show by Philip Hodgetts, DIT Station’s portable box, PostPost with Cantemo Portal, Michael Garber from Garbershop with pro techniques for FCPX and Movie Recorder 3 from Softron for multi-cam ingest.

Clay Asbury is a tech writer, reporter and trainer.  We caught up with him at NAB 2014 and he gave us a tour of the FCP Works suite at the Wynn.

Clay Asbury is a tech writer, reporter and trainer. We caught up with him at NAB 2014 and he gave us a tour of the FCP Works suite at the Wynn.

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Gadget Review: Evutec Cases – Sleek, Strong, Stylish

Evutec LogoIt’s the little things isn’t it? Form, function, durability and good looks all come in a small, sexy package with Evutec’s cases for your phone. I have an iPhone so mine looks like this:

Evutec's Wood S Series case for iPhone 5/5s in beautiful Bamboo.

Evutec’s Wood S Series case for iPhone 5/5s in beautiful Bamboo.

I chose bamboo because it is environmentally friendly, plus feels good and naturally rich in my hands. Love it. But, it’s more than good-looking, these cases are made from multiple layers of real wood veneer protected with DuPont’s Kevlar and is RoHS2 compliant for those of us who really care about our world. They are light (only 0.9mm thin) and incredibly strong, snapping securely into place. The Wood S Series comes in light or dark bamboo.

For those business meetings that command a sleek and business-like presence, choose the Karbon S or SP Series (with an extra layer of protection) in black/gray or red/black. These cases are five times as strong as steel yet don’t block cell signals and are also protected with DuPont’s Kevlar.

Evutec's Karbon SP Series case for the iPhone 5/5s.

Evutec’s Karbon SP Series case for the iPhone 5/5s.

Evutec corporation builds cases for mobile devices and tablets utilizing, “advanced, composite and recyclable materials,” and a new technology that creates a product that is incredibly strong, handsome, and contains no metal to interfere with your cell signal.

For more information, visit Evutec here.

Heart Triumphs Over Technology w/ Best Picture Oscar for “12 Years a Slave”

When the Oscar for Best Picture went to 12 Years a Slave over Gravity, it was a revealing moment and a look into the hearts and minds of the Academy voters.

Oscar fans had debated for weeks about the race between the two films; Gravity (a high-tech masterpiece) and 12 Years a Slave (an epic drama). It seemed as though no of us could, with confidence, predict which film would win.

Gravity is a tour de force. Partnering with the director and actors were the technical and VFX team teams, editors, sound designers and mixers, musicians, colorists, and a dedicated crew working tirelessly to create a breathtaking experience (especially when seen at the DGA in 3D).

But the sentimental favorite, aside from being a film that tears the actors open and breaks the audience’s heart, was 12 Years a Slave. Its deeply-inspired, achingly raw scenes of human beings struggling against unspeakable horrors and surviving through the power of love created a haunting look back at an era that could not and should not be forgotten.

Lupita Nyong'o accepts the Academy Award for Best Supporting Actress for "12 Years a Slave"

Lupita Nyong’o accepts the Academy Award for Best Supporting Actress for “12 Years a Slave”


I recall watching Steve McQueen sitting calmly next to the ever-engaging, talented and funny Martin Scorcese (representing the crude/lude/loud high budget porno, Wolves of Wall Street) and Paul Greengrass talking about who they accomplished those riveting action scenes in Captain Philips.

For four hours, the audience at the DGA listened as the directors spoke about how they made their films. One story-boarded everything, the other winged it, wanting to create something “ferocious” and depending on casting directors and choreographers to help memorialize his vision. But McQueen said, quietly, he didn’t storyboard the film, but rather went to set everyday with the idea that he would let the heart speak to him. That the actors and the crew helped him tell the story and that he let the magic happen.

We could say that either of the two films, Gravity or 12 Years a Slave, deserves Best Picture, but when the announcement finally came, I couldn’t help but think that this was Heart winning over Technology. That ultimately, what everyone wants is Love. And it, somehow, made me proud once again to be a filmmaker. It gave me courage that in the middle of this rather dirty business we all navigate, there is truth and beauty of spirit.

Lupita Nyong’o accepted her statuette for Best Supporting Actress, saying, “May it remind me & every little child that, no matter where you are from, your dreams are valid.”

That same evening, Ellen Degeneres’ selfie featuring the unbridled joy in the faces of her movie-star friends having a moment together, became the most-tweeted photographs of all time, with over a million retweets. Why? Because it was real. It was fun and it had Heart. It was not staged by their publicists, not a moment caught standing awkwardly in front of a row of paparazzi, not a behind-the-scenes pic taken sitting uncomfortably in a five-minute interview where they have to spew idiocies in order to fulfill their marketing contract…this was the Truth. And the Truth is compelling.

Ultimately, that is what we want, the Truth and Love.

Thank you, Academy and thank you, Steve McQueen for giving your real Heart to us.

Upgrade your Events and Project to FCP X 10.1 Libraries the better way

This post is provided courtesy of Philip Hodgetts of Intelligent Assistance:

Before running Final Cut Pro X 10.1 the first time, read this.

One of the most exciting new features of Final Cut Pro X 10.1 is the introduction of Libraries. Libraries now contain both Events and Projects in one package, very similar to classic Final Cut Pro “projects”.

This is a huge improvement, but of course it leaves no role for Event Manager X with Libraries, which are well managed within Final Cut Pro X 10.1.

Except Event Manager X is the best tool to use during the migration to Final Cut Pro X Libraries, therefore from today it’s free.

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Gear I Like: MOBiLE Cloth

Gear I Like: MOBiLE Cloth

Screen Shot 2013-10-08 at 8.56.19 AM I always visit International Supplies‘ booth during expo’s because they have gear that you don’t find easily. In this case, I had just finished teaching a class in field production for the ProMedia series during DV Expo. Wandering the floor, I visited Doug Pircher at their booth and saw these small cloths. Didn’t pay too much attention because I have lots of cleaning cloths…until I checked it out further

Sometimes it is the little things that make us happy and in this case, it was the MOBiLE Cloth.

If you use web enabled devices such as your iPhone, iPad, Android, etc., on set, you inevitably have fingerprints and even worse, germs, everywhere. This tiny cloth eliminates both (well 98% of the germs) in a swipe. It comes in two sizes, can be used damp or dry and with or without a screen protector.Screen Shot 2013-10-08 at 8.56.07 AM

Nice. Simple. Washable. Clean. And I like my gear clean.